The Tyranny of Imaginary Patriarchs
How the search for the ghost patriarchs has women abandoning their real money, skills, education and well being.
There is a cultural psychosis that a lot of women have succumbed to in the pursuit of love. These women are looking for their benevolent patriarch: The man who would have all the wonderful parts of the patriarch: a joy in protecting and providing, without the negatives: male violence and oppressive behavior. Unfortunately, those men solely exist in the imagination. If you want to play the game of the patriarchy, you have to pay the price. However, this has not stopped women from imprisoning themselves in a cage of their making. When confronted with the reality of the current dating market, instead of asking if those men are real, women often begin to attack the one force that has had an actual impact on their lives: feminism.
You can’t find a benevolent patriarch? It is because you are a strong and independent woman. It is the feminists that emasculated strong men and made them incapable of protecting and providing. These imaginary patriarchs are the reason so many women are willing to sacrifice their real resources, real opportunities, and real freedoms. The reality is that as a competent man, you will have a boulevard of women seeking to partner with you. If you are a competent woman, the majority of men would be unuseful, if not a negative. So, a lot of women have a visceral reaction to not finding a protector and provider and feminism bears the brunt of it.
Then there is the group of women, who reduce female labor to nothing. These are the women who ignore the difficulty that comes with being at the constant mercy of a man’s kindness. Women imagine that they can get the “fruits” of patriarchy, without paying the cost. No man is going to give you a free ride and pay for you to live a life of leisure just because you have a good pussy ( half the world also has one). I think a lot of women imagine a reality where the man has such an overwhelming amount of love for them, that compels him to provide for her. That sounds like a good delusion.
Alas, it seems as though we will be forced to learn the same mistakes as women of previous generations. Women will continue to sacrifice their well-being, income, education, and ambitions on the altar of the patriarchy in hopes that they will be blessed with the mythical protector and provider. I think that a lot of women are unwilling to come to terms with the fact: that men are not that great, and they have never been. They just had the affirmative action of patriarchy that gave them status over you. Once you come to peace with that, you can sleep better at night.
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Best,
Coffy