*Spinkle Spinkle*: Sheraseven and the real way that women gain power.

And it is not by sucking and fucking men that you don't like.

Unless you are living under a rock, you have heard about Sheraseven.

She is known for her controversial dating advice where she unapologetically schools women on how to get their financial needs met, via their relationships with men. She discourages women from building with men and becoming what she calls Barbara the builder or a Pickmesha.

A lot of you know that I don’t believe in this because I can simply make the money myself but also because the math does not fundamentally work. There are not enough high-value men to go around. So, as modern women, these are our dating options. Unless you are willing to husband snatch or make yourself abjectly poor, marrying for financial gain would not be profitable for the average woman.

However, what I find interesting about Sheraseven is not her advice. Is the fact that everyone is missing what makes this woman so successful! She is part of an elite group of women spanning history who have used their wit and gift of gab to make a way for themselves in this life. She is in the same group as Cardi B, Joan Rivers, Wendy Williams, Candace Owens, Barbara Walters, and so many more.

These women have used their words, wit, ingenuity, and charisma, to make men, people, and nations fall in love with them. This is what we can learn from their lives.

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Charm, Wit, and Charisma

One of the most powerful tools in our female arsenal is the ability to make someone feel like the center of the world. Another one is our ability to masterfully string words together in a way to evoke whatever reaction we want.

Women who have mastered the art of wit and charm can seduce not only lovers but communities, crowds, and nations. Due to innate size differences, men could often resolve challenges with physical force, while women have had to be more subtly persuasive. We can sense and notice people’s emotions with a magnitude far greater than that of men

To develop wit and charm, this is what you do:

1. Before events or meetings, do your recon work. Come with information about the important guests at a meeting. This way, you'll feel comfortable talking to anyone during the event. Allow them to indulge in their favorite activities, with interesting responses.

2. When talking to anyone, make them feel like the center of your world and follow up afterward. Be genuinely curious! Ask questions to discover what makes them tick, and listen intently. Find a way to tap into their unconscious needs and supply them with that. Then follow up by finding and following them on Instagram. Make it easy for them.

3. Have lived experiences that make you compelling to be around. No one enjoys the company of uninteresting and uninspired individuals. Engage with the world. Chart your unique path in life and share those adventures with like-minded individuals. Become the friend whose adventures speak for them even when they're not in the room. This allows you to be a great conversationalist and make compelling and interesting jokes.

4. Find and wear your armor. Being charming involves centering another person in the process. To do this, you need to find your armor—the outfit you have mastered wearing and feel radiantly confident in. Know the makeup that suits you and doesn't stain. Know the perfume you love to smell like. Once you have mastered all these elements, you can focus all your attention on other people. You can actively engage with them because you are not self-conscious.