This nails something that I’ve seen in my groups of female lawyer colleagues. I’ve written it off to collective low-EQ and risk aversion, but you’ve beautifully stated both the actual issue and a few of the trickle down effects (and thinking other women’s marriages are abusive because “she chose wrong” is a particularly dangerous belief in a family lawyer or family court judge). Dynamic women handle life with out being handed a road map …. Which means those of us drawn to well-mapped regions (professionally or personally) still have a lot of growth opportunity to work on.
This nails something that I’ve seen in my groups of female lawyer colleagues. I’ve written it off to collective low-EQ and risk aversion, but you’ve beautifully stated both the actual issue and a few of the trickle down effects (and thinking other women’s marriages are abusive because “she chose wrong” is a particularly dangerous belief in a family lawyer or family court judge). Dynamic women handle life with out being handed a road map …. Which means those of us drawn to well-mapped regions (professionally or personally) still have a lot of growth opportunity to work on.
Yup! The problem is that the women who are highly competent and succeed in those fields are incentivized to stay there and not venture out.
I also haven’t met very many women like those women, but i wonder how they react when life decides that it needs to write a new chapter for them