Agreed, but I'd also add: get educated in some way, shape, or form to avoid becoming redundant. This can be an apprenticeship, a certification, or even university education--but you do need skills, a work history, and certification in order to survive the coming shit show. None of this redpill homemaker stuff--being a homemaker is fine, but you need to have something in case you end up like Lauren Southern (oh, irony!).
Oh, and don't mistaken academia as anything other than a credentialing machine. There is no life of the mind, so be pragmatic and choose your degree(s) wisely.
Damn! You said it ALL. Im 55, and I am absolutely horrified by the hijacking if real feminism with this Postmodernist bullcrap, as well as the trad reaction to it. My own sisters are completely sucked in to this childish "be kind" hijacking of women's minds...and these are women who suffered horrible abuse at the hands of my narcissistic fuckwad father...as well as partners. They are so brainwashed it's unreal. I feel helpless in trying to reach them. Thanks for writing this...it gives me hope and a new strategy to try and reach them.
1) This will be my longest reply, because I vehemently disagree. I have several close trans women friends. And connecting with them, it's just very obvious that they are not men. The concept of multiple genders has existed in many indigenous cultures since Egypt, Polynesia etc. Trans people are also victims of discrimination & violent crime at the hands of men, many targeted specifically because of their gender identity (https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/press/ncvs-trans-press-release/_). Trans women specifically, are going to be so valuable in solving many problems caused by men in modern society, they can relate to parts of the female experience, while sharing how experiencing a patriarchal society with male privilege is; many share the biological changes they felt after starting hormones, and as more transgender women are studied in science and healthcare, a real medical cure addressing the biological reasons that men create abuse and violent crime could be possible*. I do agree that predators exist who either are transgender, or just use the label to harm women & invade our spaces. I am not sure what other solutions are, but I can say that for men/abusive women as a whole, as well. I can, however, immediately identify some roots that contribute to this problem: patriarchy, rape culture, abuser worship culture, parts of capitalism & an epidemic of narcissism, to name a few.
3) yes, there is a reason why we never see older tradwives.
4) yes. As a sex worker myself (retiring next year! 🥳), I believe it is a sacred and very rare life path that chooses you, not the other way around. It is one of the most difficult spiritual journeys. You learn a lot but most don't make it out. If you (anyone reading this) are forced into this life you need to make a plan and make the absolute most out of everything you learn from it to apply to something else because it is not sustainable and the value of sex work has only gotten cheaper & cheaper as prices for most of everything else gets inflated. Most women are statistically left in poverty with no creditable skills after divorce, so dedicating your end goal to finding a man for happily ever after is extremely high risk. "A man is not a plan." Don't get me wrong, men can absolutely be used to level up, your great loves & heartbreaks can develop your character & soul. But that's only one part of the female experience & the rich tapestry of your life! Like another one of Coffys posts says. Be a woman who happens to be married, not a married woman.
5) *see #1
6) I think the base idea of the body positivity movement is good; don't wait until you look a certain way to start your life, don't feel ashamed of yourself depending on how you look, stop caring about how your body looks effects your dating life or desirability to men because that. does. not. matter. At the same time, the health consequences of obesity and an unhealthy lifestyle should not be overlooked.
9) yup, I truly believe that most people are not happy in their relationships.
Excellent article that I'm sure wasn't easy to write.
I've been shamed for saying these harsh truths for years because I'm active in the BDSM kink community. I learned much when I became aware of greenwashing campaigns and the extent of cover up. The harsh truths become so obvious after following trends for awhile.
These are also distractions that keep up looking away from the truths we need to 👁
Amen, especially to #1. People can fuss all they like but being a TERF is the only form of feminism that will matter moving forward
Agreed, but I'd also add: get educated in some way, shape, or form to avoid becoming redundant. This can be an apprenticeship, a certification, or even university education--but you do need skills, a work history, and certification in order to survive the coming shit show. None of this redpill homemaker stuff--being a homemaker is fine, but you need to have something in case you end up like Lauren Southern (oh, irony!).
Oh, and don't mistaken academia as anything other than a credentialing machine. There is no life of the mind, so be pragmatic and choose your degree(s) wisely.
Damn! You said it ALL. Im 55, and I am absolutely horrified by the hijacking if real feminism with this Postmodernist bullcrap, as well as the trad reaction to it. My own sisters are completely sucked in to this childish "be kind" hijacking of women's minds...and these are women who suffered horrible abuse at the hands of my narcissistic fuckwad father...as well as partners. They are so brainwashed it's unreal. I feel helpless in trying to reach them. Thanks for writing this...it gives me hope and a new strategy to try and reach them.
Going to add my own thoughts
1) This will be my longest reply, because I vehemently disagree. I have several close trans women friends. And connecting with them, it's just very obvious that they are not men. The concept of multiple genders has existed in many indigenous cultures since Egypt, Polynesia etc. Trans people are also victims of discrimination & violent crime at the hands of men, many targeted specifically because of their gender identity (https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/press/ncvs-trans-press-release/_). Trans women specifically, are going to be so valuable in solving many problems caused by men in modern society, they can relate to parts of the female experience, while sharing how experiencing a patriarchal society with male privilege is; many share the biological changes they felt after starting hormones, and as more transgender women are studied in science and healthcare, a real medical cure addressing the biological reasons that men create abuse and violent crime could be possible*. I do agree that predators exist who either are transgender, or just use the label to harm women & invade our spaces. I am not sure what other solutions are, but I can say that for men/abusive women as a whole, as well. I can, however, immediately identify some roots that contribute to this problem: patriarchy, rape culture, abuser worship culture, parts of capitalism & an epidemic of narcissism, to name a few.
3) yes, there is a reason why we never see older tradwives.
4) yes. As a sex worker myself (retiring next year! 🥳), I believe it is a sacred and very rare life path that chooses you, not the other way around. It is one of the most difficult spiritual journeys. You learn a lot but most don't make it out. If you (anyone reading this) are forced into this life you need to make a plan and make the absolute most out of everything you learn from it to apply to something else because it is not sustainable and the value of sex work has only gotten cheaper & cheaper as prices for most of everything else gets inflated. Most women are statistically left in poverty with no creditable skills after divorce, so dedicating your end goal to finding a man for happily ever after is extremely high risk. "A man is not a plan." Don't get me wrong, men can absolutely be used to level up, your great loves & heartbreaks can develop your character & soul. But that's only one part of the female experience & the rich tapestry of your life! Like another one of Coffys posts says. Be a woman who happens to be married, not a married woman.
5) *see #1
6) I think the base idea of the body positivity movement is good; don't wait until you look a certain way to start your life, don't feel ashamed of yourself depending on how you look, stop caring about how your body looks effects your dating life or desirability to men because that. does. not. matter. At the same time, the health consequences of obesity and an unhealthy lifestyle should not be overlooked.
9) yup, I truly believe that most people are not happy in their relationships.
Excellent article that I'm sure wasn't easy to write.
I've been shamed for saying these harsh truths for years because I'm active in the BDSM kink community. I learned much when I became aware of greenwashing campaigns and the extent of cover up. The harsh truths become so obvious after following trends for awhile.
These are also distractions that keep up looking away from the truths we need to 👁