Living, Loving and Earning On Your Own Terms
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Whenever I imagine a woman that took life into her hands, I immediately think of Diana Ross. A woman who grow up in projects in Detroit, Michigan to become one of the first black superstar. Diana Ross epitomizes cunning female ingenuity. She is #BlackGirlMagic before the word became popular. Even though she was the queen of Motown, she left the record label when it no longer served her. There is a lot that we can learn from the life of Diana Ross about being radical agents in our self-advancement.
As someone in my mid-twenties, I have been thinking about how I could set myself up for success in my thirties. Fundamentally, the goal of life is to create a life where you live, love and earn on your own terms. I detail below what that life would mean to me. Before you go ahead and read the rest, ask yourself “what does living, loving and earning on my own terms look like to me?”
Living On My Own Terms
I would live my singular life in multiple ways. Like Josephine Baker, I would get to experience multiple facets of myself. I would explore multiple careers and live in multiple countries.
I would live primarily in a towns and spaces that fosters my physical and psychological thriving. For me, this looks like living in a walkable neighborhood close to a major city.
I would only live in countries that aligns with my social, political and economic world views.
I would be able to spend time doing the things that I enjoy, such as dancing, gardening and singing.
Loving On My Own Terms
I will only be entertaining love when I am ready, if that ever happens. I refuse to even entertain the thought of partnership until I have fully become the person that teenage self would be proud of. I am truly the love of the life and refuse to give up that position unless I find an exemplary man.
If I were to have a romantic partner, that person would be my co-creator and co-collaborator. They would work for my socio-economic and political advancement without me even asking. They would advocate for me when I am not in the room. They would be the Pierre Curie to my Marie Curie and the Martin D. Ginsburg to my Ruth Bader Ginsburg.
My ideal partner would have a zest for life. They would enjoy the act of existence and would do so with fervor.
I will never entertain love that requires that I prove myself.
Earning On My Own Terms
I would simply be three things: always hirable, not fireable and unfuckable. What does it mean:
Always Hirable: this means always having skills that make me to be in high demand and having the credentials to prove those skills.
Not Fireable: always have some source of income that no one can take away from me. This means having a side hustle that produces income.
Unfuckable: I would have money that would let me say fuck you to any opportunity that I did not like. I would be able to walk away from any task or job that did not serve me.
Additionally, I want to retire my parents and I am working hard to be able to do so.
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