5 Controversial Lies That Have Been Told To Women (And The Real Truth)
1. If You Are Kind And Virtuous, You Will Win The Affection Of Men
Let's start off with the most basic of lies. It is a new-age version of the madonna-whore complex. It follows the idea that “the good/nice girl” gets the guy at the end over “the bad/sexy girl”.
The truth:
If a man has the option of having two women, he would probably try to string both along. It is the most advantageous mating strategy to do so. If he is forced to pick one, he will more likely pick the woman that gives him access to sex and status.
Your virtue has nothing to do with a man’s affection for you. The moral and ethical framework through which you navigate the world should not be hinged on the affections of anyone other than yourself.
2. Sex Work Is Empowering
This is one of my favorite lies. The idea that a woman engaging in a globally exploitative enterprise at her own fruition is empowering. The reasoning behind this is that if a woman is able to make a profit off her body, it is a feminist achievement because previously, it would have been a man exploiting her.
The truth:
an overwhelming majority of the women who engage in sex work are either forced i.e. sex trafficked, or financially coerced due to poverty. It is unsurprising that we saw a dramatic increase in the number of OnlyFans creators once the pandemic hit. You cannot be empowered by something that you are essentially forced into.
When virtual sex workers (such as camgirls or OnlyFans creators), talk about how empowering sex work is for them, they undermine the pain and suppering of women who see the truly violent nature of sex work. I wish more sex workers would be honest about the stigma and impact that the careers have on their lives.
I wish more virtual sex workers would be honest about the fact that they do their work for money and male attention. There is nothing empowering about being unable to do certain jobs in the future due to your past. There is not empowering about having your nudes all over the internet beyond your control. There is nothing empowering about the familial alienation that you might face when they discover the work.
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3. Corporations Care About Women
This has to be the most ridiculous lie of them all. The idea behind this is that companies that promote causes such as feminism, in their branding care about women.
The truth:
Corporations only care about their profits and shareholders and see people based on their purchasing power. Corporations have been undermining the entire feminist movement from its inception. “Torches of Freedom” was a public relations campaign used to equate smoking in public with female emancipation. Smoking in public was seen as an inappropriate act for women and was only done by prostitutes and “fallen women”. Cigarette companies realized that they were missing a large portion of profits by not appealing to half of the global population: women. To expand to women, the American Tobacco Company hired Edward Bernays to help recruit women smokers. In 1929, he paid women to smoke their “Torches of Freedom” as they walked in the Easter Sunday Parade in New York. He made sure that the women selected were presentable and appealing without being pretentious. He then hired photographers to take photos ad publish them around the world. This was how cigarettes became part of the feminist movement.
Do not be deceived by branding or media. Most of the products marketed to women, such as clothing and makeup, require slave labor at the expense of women and children.
4. The Body Positivity Movement Cares About Women
The body positivity movement was meant to be a movement that “empowered women across the size spectrum. However, I realized that this entire movement was a scam.
The truth:
The body positivity movement is a media campaign lead by corporations that understand that the American waistline is increasing and wants to capitalize on a new generation of women. Women also find this movement appealing because it tries to make bigger women more f**kable by men. It has nothing to do with actually “empowering” women.
If we truly cared about women, we would always recommend that women become healthy. There are entire industries that are built around exploiting people who are overweight such as the pharmaceutical, fitness, clothing, and fast food industries. The goal is to not feed into any one of those industries. Encouraging women to radically prioritize their health should be the goal. Then again, how would corporations be able to make a profit off that?
5. Trans Radical Activism Does Not Undermine Women
The truth:
Of all the lies that have been told, I believe this to be the most harmful. There are multiple ways that the Trans radical ideology undermines women. If you are going to challenges these ideas, feel free to. However, YOU HAVE TO MAKE VALID, LOGICAL, AND CONSISTENT ARGUMENTS. CALLING ME A TERF IS NOT AN ARGUMENT. These are some of the few ways that the current TRANS ideology undermines women.
If womanhood is a feeling, not a biological reality, how are women meant to organize and rally behind a lived reality? If something as nebulous and ephemeral as “feelings” is what defines a woman, then “woman” has no definition. As with other things, we classify objects based on their physical characteristics. Why is “woman” the only space where physical characteristics become second to feelings? If we can disregard biologically lived realities, then other physical markers such as race and age are up for debate. However, if we were to argue that someone can change races, the entire house of cards built by this ideology would fall.
If a set of biological realities does not make a woman, do heels, makeup, hair extensions, and breast implants make someone a woman?
Why is the focus only on trans-woman and not trans-men? Because trans-women have been raised and socialized as male and have male-entitlement. They feel entitled to women’s spaces in a way that trans-men do not to men's spaces. I essentially call this misogyny from the Left.
Saying pronouns completely disregard the gender biases that women, especially those in the STEM fields, experience. In the past, female authors had to write in pen names for a plethora of reasons, one of which was to prevent gender biases from preventing books sales and publishing.
Lastly, the idea that nefarious men would enter women's spaces under the guise of being trans is a valid concern. There are men who become priests, plumber, electricians, and teachers to gain easy access to children. Are you telling me that in the era of self-ID that men would not were a wig to harass women in a bathroom?
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